Please forgive the wordy post...but I have to get this off my chest!I don't claim to be an excellent speller! I don't claim to be an excellent writer! I don't claim to be anything really other than the obvious (Christian, wife, mommy, crocheter, knitter, blogger, podcaster...so on).
Why am I telling you all this? Because of this...
The other day I posted on all my yahoo groups a request for suggestions. Suggestions regarding the Podcast Rumble KAL and CAL I am trying to get started. Here is what I wrote:
Hello there everybody, my name is Marly and I put on a podcast calledI know there are a few grammatical errors in there but after it is posted you can do nothing about it...I didn't worry about it too much. Until, that is, I read this posted on the group:
Yarn Thing. I thought it might be fun to do a Knit-along and a
Crochet-along with the podcast and I am currently looking for idea's
Not sure how it is all going to pan out but my initial idea's are as
Podcast vs. Podcast: have two podcast compete against one another
working on the same pattern. One podcast could be knitters and the
Knitters vs. Crocheters: again, working on the same project but
instead of including another podcast keep it "in house" if you will
Just good old fashion fun: don't make any contest out of it but pick a
simple pattern and let each person SPICE it up in any way they see fit
and let us all decide who's is the best...
Again, these are just suggestions and I am looking for more. So, have
a listen to my podcast and take a look at the podcast blog, leave me
comments as to what you would like to see or do!
Can't wait to hear from you all!
Podcast Blog: http://yarnthing.blogspot.com
(I took off her name so I don't get into trouble)Re: KAL and CAL Podcast Rumble?
Forgive this fiber bug for being such a stickler with spelling but it
gives me a toothache when I see the 's which is a shortened form of
the verb to be as in "she's" for "she is" used in place of the plural
And so, no matter how many ideas you get, it is wrong to
spell "idea's" like you did twice, and also, "whose" project is best,
and not "who's".
Also I don't see what knitting and crocheting projects are doing in a
Now for the contest thing, I see you realize that playing who-is-best
is somehow childish. Enough already with the competitive spirit. Find
another source of motivation. Allow anyone who wants to participate
to express themselves without concern for a putative jury.
Man, after I read that I felt like dirt. I couldn't believe that anybody would cut me down so deeply and not even know me! Over GRAMMAR! The next post was from another woman; I was hoping that she was writing to say that what was said to me was uncalled for:
> Forgive this fiber bug for being such a stickler with spelling but it(Again, left the name off on purpose) Oh man, I was in tears! I am not joking, streams of tears rolling down my face! How stupid I felt to actually be crying over something like this. But really, it hurt me! Why do people see it necessary to berate somebody publicly? What gives them the nerve?
> gives me a toothache when I see the 's which is a shortened form of
> the verb to be as in "she's" for "she is" used in place of the plural
> And so, no matter how many ideas you get, it is wrong to
> spell "idea's" like you did twice, and also, "whose" project is best,
> and not "who's".
Bravo for having the guts to point out these common errors! I was
roasted on another list a few years ago for having the gall to quietly
mention the same thing.
> Also I don't see what knitting and crocheting projects are doing in a
> FELTING group.
I disagree. Knitted and crochet objects are often felted, so to me,
this is not off base for this group.
> Now for the contest thing, I see you realize that playing who-is-best
> is somehow childish. Enough already with the competitive spirit.
Another nod of agreement here!
I didn't know how to respond. I was hurt and angry; but I knew that was not the appropriate way to address the situation. I wanted to leave the group immediately but again, that would be like letting them win. Instead, I wrote this:
I think that just about sums it up.Re: KAL and CAL Podcast Rumble?
First of all,
I would like to apologize for the spelling errors. Sometimes I make
mistakes...but don't we all. Next time, please point such errors out
to an individual in email, not to the group, please.
As for the crochet or knitting aspect of the post...I often crochet
items then felt them to make beautiful things so I did not think this
was out of line for a felting group. If I am incorrect, please let me
As for the competition, it was only meant to have some fun. Not for
validation or anything! And it is not to judge what project is
best...I was only trying to get a little friendly competition with
knitters vs. crocheters. Projects would not be judged. I don't even
know how all this will plan out. Thus the request for ideas
I understand that you are frustrated but I must say, that when I
opened my email this morning and noticed that you all had replied to
my post...I was excited to see that somebody had take the time to
write something. Only to quickly get my excitement replaced with
humility and sorrow. I am sorry I offended you with my spelling
errors and with the talk of knitting and crochet and with the friendly
competition. But please know, no matter how much you might have not
intended to, you did hurt my feelings. :-(
I have received a few emails from other members of the group telling me they are sorry for the words of the rude individuals and that is really nice! It is not everyday that perfect strangers stick up for you when a bully is putting you down.
I want to say THANK YOU to these strangers and let them know they really lifted my morale.
And to anybody out there who feels it necessary to
write such rude comments to people...
write such rude comments to people...
find something better to do than cut others down...
If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all!
Rant Over :-) Marly
Rant Over :-) Marly